Comments on: All I Want For Christmas Is…My Mother http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html writing from the heart of a girl and the mind of a woman Sun, 08 Aug 2010 20:11:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: allisonsumpter http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-122 allisonsumpter Tue, 03 Aug 2010 19:32:35 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-122 I wish I knew your name, Rgilmore1983. The pain of loss...the grief you feel...I know it so well. I just want to hug you and comfort you. Losing both of your parents in such a short span of time is the kind of loss I don't know how I would handle. Having only my father left on this earth has made me so much more appreciative and, frankly, needy of him. My emotional attachment to him is such that I honestly don't know how I would survive if I were to lose him.<br><br>I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my mother 23 years ago, and the longing for her to come back has yet to disappear. Please accept my heart's desire to reach through the Internet and hug you...hold you...and let you grieve. I can't imagine the devastation you feel, but I know a slice of the pain. And I send love, hope and encouragement to you as you move forward with your life.<br><br>Thank you for sharing with me. I write about my life openly here, and a lot about the loss of my mother, for this very reason...for someone to find and identify with in some way. I just have to believe there's comfort, encouragement and hope in sharing our live's with each other. When the world says to be strong, get over it, move on after a certain amount of time has passed, that's when I want to be out in the world saying, "It's ok. I feel it too."<br><br>A heartfelt hug,<br>Allison I wish I knew your name, Rgilmore1983. The pain of loss…the grief you feel…I know it so well. I just want to hug you and comfort you. Losing both of your parents in such a short span of time is the kind of loss I don't know how I would handle. Having only my father left on this earth has made me so much more appreciative and, frankly, needy of him. My emotional attachment to him is such that I honestly don't know how I would survive if I were to lose him.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my mother 23 years ago, and the longing for her to come back has yet to disappear. Please accept my heart's desire to reach through the Internet and hug you…hold you…and let you grieve. I can't imagine the devastation you feel, but I know a slice of the pain. And I send love, hope and encouragement to you as you move forward with your life.

Thank you for sharing with me. I write about my life openly here, and a lot about the loss of my mother, for this very reason…for someone to find and identify with in some way. I just have to believe there's comfort, encouragement and hope in sharing our live's with each other. When the world says to be strong, get over it, move on after a certain amount of time has passed, that's when I want to be out in the world saying, “It's ok. I feel it too.”

A heartfelt hug,
Allison

]]> By: I Understand, Rgilmore1983 http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-123 I Understand, Rgilmore1983 Tue, 03 Aug 2010 16:26:30 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-123 [...] 10 hours ago I just lost my mother the 1st of August and I lost my father in January and I am still devastated [...] [...] 10 hours ago I just lost my mother the 1st of August and I lost my father in January and I am still devastated [...]

]]> By: Rgilmore1983 http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-121 Rgilmore1983 Tue, 03 Aug 2010 09:29:51 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-121 I just lost my mother the 1st of August and I lost my father in January and I am still devastated over them. I just lost my mother the 1st of August and I lost my father in January and I am still devastated over them.

]]> By: Without You Here With Me, I Don’t Know What To Do http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-106 Without You Here With Me, I Don’t Know What To Do Tue, 30 Mar 2010 02:51:54 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-106 [...] message is simple. I miss my mom. Because I was 18 when she died, I’ve spent my entire adult life, over and over again, [...] [...] message is simple. I miss my mom. Because I was 18 when she died, I’ve spent my entire adult life, over and over again, [...]

]]> By: Sisters in Memories « Silkpurseproductions's Blog http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-97 Sisters in Memories « Silkpurseproductions's Blog Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:13:40 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-97 [...] 24, 2010 by Michelle Gillies At Christmas Allison Sumpter wrote “All I Want For Christmas Is…My Mother”? . In it she speaks from the heart of how after more than 23 years she still longs for her [...] [...] 24, 2010 by Michelle Gillies At Christmas Allison Sumpter wrote “All I Want For Christmas Is…My Mother”? . In it she speaks from the heart of how after more than 23 years she still longs for her [...]

]]> By: allisonsumpter http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-89 allisonsumpter Sat, 26 Dec 2009 13:32:19 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-89 Wow, Michelle. You confirm what my 23 years has shown me. It really never goes away, does it? You move on with life, but the longing comes back like a haunting. Thank you so much for sharing. There’s such comfort in connecting with others who understand.<br><br>Having children seems to have been a part of my journey, giving me purpose when my foundation was shaken. But it wasn’t until nearly 20 years after my mom died that I was introduced to the concept of mothering myself. When a friend suggested I look at myself from the perspective of a mother, my paradigm shifted. So many things I brushed off as nothing when I encountered them looked completely different when I framed them through the eyes of a mother. Being a mother has taught me many things. Not the least of which is how I need to feel as protective of and concerned about myself as I feel about my children. I need to mother myself. And I’ve found that so many of us – with mothers living or not – would be so much stronger, healthier and happier if we could all learn to give ourselves the unconditional love, nurturing and protection that the mothers we long for would give us.<br><br>I hope you are having a peaceful and happy Christmas. I’m so glad you read my heart and shared yours as well. Thank you so much! A beautiful Christmas present for me, indeed. :)<br><br>~Allison Wow, Michelle. You confirm what my 23 years has shown me. It really never goes away, does it? You move on with life, but the longing comes back like a haunting. Thank you so much for sharing. There’s such comfort in connecting with others who understand.

Having children seems to have been a part of my journey, giving me purpose when my foundation was shaken. But it wasn’t until nearly 20 years after my mom died that I was introduced to the concept of mothering myself. When a friend suggested I look at myself from the perspective of a mother, my paradigm shifted. So many things I brushed off as nothing when I encountered them looked completely different when I framed them through the eyes of a mother. Being a mother has taught me many things. Not the least of which is how I need to feel as protective of and concerned about myself as I feel about my children. I need to mother myself. And I’ve found that so many of us – with mothers living or not – would be so much stronger, healthier and happier if we could all learn to give ourselves the unconditional love, nurturing and protection that the mothers we long for would give us.

I hope you are having a peaceful and happy Christmas. I’m so glad you read my heart and shared yours as well. Thank you so much! A beautiful Christmas present for me, indeed. :)

~Allison

]]> By: allisons http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-88 allisons Fri, 25 Dec 2009 20:25:20 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-88 Wow, Michelle. You confirm what my 23 years has shown me. It really never goes away, does it? You move on with life, but the longing comes back like a haunting. Thank you so much for sharing. There's such comfort in connecting with others who understand. Having children seems to have been a part of my journey, giving me purpose when my foundation was shaken. But it wasn't until nearly 20 years after my mom died that I was introduced to the concept of mothering myself. When a friend suggested I look at myself from the perspective of a mother, my paradigm shifted. So many things I brushed off as nothing when I encountered them looked completely different when I framed them through the eyes of a mother. Being a mother has taught me many things. Not the least of which is how I need to feel as protective of and concerned about myself as I feel about my children. I need to mother myself. And I've found that so many of us - with mothers living or not - would be so much stronger, healthier and happier if we could all learn to give ourselves the unconditional love, nurturing and protection that the mothers we long for would give us. I hope you are having a peaceful and happy Christmas. I'm so glad you read my heart and shared yours as well. Thank you so much! A beautiful Christmas present for me, indeed. :) ~Allison Wow, Michelle. You confirm what my 23 years has shown me. It really never goes away, does it? You move on with life, but the longing comes back like a haunting. Thank you so much for sharing. There’s such comfort in connecting with others who understand.

Having children seems to have been a part of my journey, giving me purpose when my foundation was shaken. But it wasn’t until nearly 20 years after my mom died that I was introduced to the concept of mothering myself. When a friend suggested I look at myself from the perspective of a mother, my paradigm shifted. So many things I brushed off as nothing when I encountered them looked completely different when I framed them through the eyes of a mother. Being a mother has taught me many things. Not the least of which is how I need to feel as protective of and concerned about myself as I feel about my children. I need to mother myself. And I’ve found that so many of us – with mothers living or not – would be so much stronger, healthier and happier if we could all learn to give ourselves the unconditional love, nurturing and protection that the mothers we long for would give us.

I hope you are having a peaceful and happy Christmas. I’m so glad you read my heart and shared yours as well. Thank you so much! A beautiful Christmas present for me, indeed. :)

~Allison

]]> By: MichelleGillies http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/12/all-i-want-for-christmas-is-my-mother.html/comment-page-1#comment-87 MichelleGillies Fri, 25 Dec 2009 19:45:05 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=156#comment-87 It has been 40 years since my mother passed and I still feel the same way that you do. I have never heard anyone express it as well as you did in this post. I never had the children, but my sisters did so I am the doting Aunt. As you say though, they are all grown and not with me. I thank you for sharing your heart with us this Christmas Season and I think I may work on that gift for myself.<br>Merry Christmas and Joyous New Year It has been 40 years since my mother passed and I still feel the same way that you do. I have never heard anyone express it as well as you did in this post. I never had the children, but my sisters did so I am the doting Aunt. As you say though, they are all grown and not with me. I thank you for sharing your heart with us this Christmas Season and I think I may work on that gift for myself.
Merry Christmas and Joyous New Year

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