Comments on: The Heart of a Father http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html writing from the heart of a girl and the mind of a woman Sun, 08 Aug 2010 20:11:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Allison Sumpter http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-63 Allison Sumpter Sun, 22 Nov 2009 05:24:57 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-63 Thank you Dad. :)<br /><br />Let's provide a link to the "Cat's In The Cradle" reference http://bit.ly/7F2JpI ...where I wrote what I'm writing again now - I love my dad.<br /><br />Love,<br />Allison Thank you Dad. :)

Let's provide a link to the "Cat's In The Cradle" reference http://bit.ly/7F2JpI …where I wrote what I'm writing again now – I love my dad.

Love,
Allison

]]> By: Bert Decker http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-62 Bert Decker Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:09:05 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-62 Hi Allison,<br /><br />Harold is so good - no "Cat's In The Cradle" there. Tell him, "This won't burn."<br /><br />Great post, and great writing again.<br /><br />Love to the both of you - and to all your kids who benefit from you both!<br /><br />Love,<br />Dad Hi Allison,

Harold is so good – no "Cat's In The Cradle" there. Tell him, "This won't burn."

Great post, and great writing again.

Love to the both of you – and to all your kids who benefit from you both!

Love,
Dad

]]> By: Allison Sumpter http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-59 Allison Sumpter Fri, 20 Nov 2009 04:25:41 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-59 Linda - What great material for future posts!<br /><br />Mommy guilt: My experience with my friends has always led me to believe moms universally struggle with being too hard on themselves. It's something how I have the same inclination that I hate to see in my friends.<br /><br />Slow changes: I couldn't agree with you more. I have changes I want to make, and I am absolutely committed to taking baby steps...but only after stumbling from giant leaps in the past. :)<br /><br />I think you're probably right. Our children are secure in the love of both their parents. That's the foundation.<br /><br />You're a treasure, Linda. Linda – What great material for future posts!

Mommy guilt: My experience with my friends has always led me to believe moms universally struggle with being too hard on themselves. It's something how I have the same inclination that I hate to see in my friends.

Slow changes: I couldn't agree with you more. I have changes I want to make, and I am absolutely committed to taking baby steps…but only after stumbling from giant leaps in the past. :)

I think you're probably right. Our children are secure in the love of both their parents. That's the foundation.

You're a treasure, Linda.

]]> By: Linda Menesez http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-58 Linda Menesez Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:00:38 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-58 Thank you, Allison. I'm glad that what I said had meaning to you both. As always, you know that whatever I say comes from my heart.<br /><br />It sounds to me like you're a bit hard on yourself as a mom. Your love for your family radiates through everything you write. We all have times when the child or young adult part of us comes through. That's normal. If there are changes that you feel like you need to make, though, just do it in very small steps, so you don't feel overwhelmed. Kids are able to understand our being less than perfect, as long as they know how much we love them. I am absolutely positive that your children are very secure in the love of both their dad and their mom! They're lucky kids!<br /><br />Linda Thank you, Allison. I'm glad that what I said had meaning to you both. As always, you know that whatever I say comes from my heart.

It sounds to me like you're a bit hard on yourself as a mom. Your love for your family radiates through everything you write. We all have times when the child or young adult part of us comes through. That's normal. If there are changes that you feel like you need to make, though, just do it in very small steps, so you don't feel overwhelmed. Kids are able to understand our being less than perfect, as long as they know how much we love them. I am absolutely positive that your children are very secure in the love of both their dad and their mom! They're lucky kids!

Linda

]]> By: Allison Sumpter http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-57 Allison Sumpter Mon, 16 Nov 2009 04:51:41 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-57 Wow Linda. That is so beautiful. I read your comment aloud to my husband, and he was touched as well. He said, "that's so cool." (But you have to hear the tone in which he said it to fully appreciate his response. It was his way of saying "that's so beautiful.")<br /><br />I can't tell you how much I have appreciated your wisdom and warmth both on Twitter and here. Thank you so much for being you...and sharing yourself with others like me! :)<br /><br />In response to your assumption that their mother shows the children by actions how much they mean on a daily basis, I have the typical "never good enough" mindset of most moms, but the truth is, I really don't show them enough - I don't think. But they definitely feel loved. Between my husband and me, we are accomplishing the objective of raising healthy, happy, grounded young people into adults. The imperfections and failures I bring are balanced with a sensitivity and intimate love and connection that seem to bring some good to my role as a parent. And my husband - well he's the rock: stable, structured, hard-working leader, financial provider, protective and involved father, (often playing the role as sole parent when my child or teenager is in high gear). He thinks I'm the glue that holds the family together, but the truth is - he is. :)<br /><br />Always so happy to see you comment. Thanks for reading and sharing, Linda.<br /><br />Allison Wow Linda. That is so beautiful. I read your comment aloud to my husband, and he was touched as well. He said, "that's so cool." (But you have to hear the tone in which he said it to fully appreciate his response. It was his way of saying "that's so beautiful.")

I can't tell you how much I have appreciated your wisdom and warmth both on Twitter and here. Thank you so much for being you…and sharing yourself with others like me! :)

In response to your assumption that their mother shows the children by actions how much they mean on a daily basis, I have the typical "never good enough" mindset of most moms, but the truth is, I really don't show them enough – I don't think. But they definitely feel loved. Between my husband and me, we are accomplishing the objective of raising healthy, happy, grounded young people into adults. The imperfections and failures I bring are balanced with a sensitivity and intimate love and connection that seem to bring some good to my role as a parent. And my husband – well he's the rock: stable, structured, hard-working leader, financial provider, protective and involved father, (often playing the role as sole parent when my child or teenager is in high gear). He thinks I'm the glue that holds the family together, but the truth is – he is. :)

Always so happy to see you comment. Thanks for reading and sharing, Linda.

Allison

]]> By: Linda Menesez http://allisonsumpter.com/2009/11/the-heart-of-a-father.html/comment-page-1#comment-56 Linda Menesez Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:14:48 +0000 http://allisonsumpter.com/?p=27#comment-56 My goodness, your husband obviously has a heart of pure gold!! What a lucky and blessed family he has! Making the choice he made speaks volumes of what his core values are, and how he lives his life to reflect those values. Your children will grow up with very good self images. How could they not know what precious, valuable human beings they are? Their father (and I'm sure their mother) show them by actions how much they mean on a daily basis. I can tell that you're rightfully proud of their father -- and your husband. Enjoy your beautiful family<br /><br />Linda My goodness, your husband obviously has a heart of pure gold!! What a lucky and blessed family he has! Making the choice he made speaks volumes of what his core values are, and how he lives his life to reflect those values. Your children will grow up with very good self images. How could they not know what precious, valuable human beings they are? Their father (and I'm sure their mother) show them by actions how much they mean on a daily basis. I can tell that you're rightfully proud of their father — and your husband. Enjoy your beautiful family

Linda

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